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Archive for Mindfulness – Page 2

How to turn a problem into an opportunity

By Nina East · Comments (0)
Tuesday, May 11th, 2010

dynamicthumb How to turn a problem into an opportunitySince you are a personal growth enthusiast, I suspect you are often looking for ways to turn problems into opportunities. That seems to be wired into the DNA of people who are into self-help, personal development, self-improvement, etc.

Of course, being in the midst of the problem is often the hardest time to even get your mind to shift to thinking about the opportunity inherent in it. I have a friend who always asks me “What’s great about this?” when I bring up something that is frustrating me. Usually this helps me shift, but every now and then I want to bop her on the head for it.  [superemotions file="icon_wink.gif" title="Wink"]  Every cloud has a silver lining, but when it’s cloudy, sometimes it just feels cloudy.

As with anything, practice and use increases your skill at not just finding the opportunity, but to remember to do so in the first place. It’s easiest to practice new “ways of being” before the problem arises. Once you’re in the throws of it it’s harder to do, unless you’ve been practicing it so that has become automatic for you, or almost automatic.

One model you can use to help yourself re-think problems is called the Dynamic Opportunity Model.

The Dynamic Opportunity Model was created by Thomas Leonard, founder of CoachVille – one of the largest and most innovative coach training programs ever. (Thomas is no longer among us, but Dave Buck, who inherited the company, has graciously given me permission to share this model with you.)

The diagram shows Read More→

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Categories : Goals, Mindfulness, Recommended Resources
Tags : dynamic opportunity model, Goals, personal growth, self-help, turn problem into opportunity

Multitasking? Multi-failing? Or is it all just a big mess?

By Nina East · Comments (0)
Friday, April 9th, 2010

womanfiles Multitasking? Multi failing? Or is it all just a big mess?You’ve probably heard about the research that stated your effectiveness when multitasking was about the same and if you were smoking pot. It was humorous, and so spread like wildfire last summer. What didn’t spread like wildfire was some of the research that explains it further, and that poses some interesting questions (and possibilities) about generational differences and the evolution of the brain.

“Why does this matter to a Princess?”, you might ask. Because, let’s face it, we multitask all the time. I don’t know if women really multitask more than men, but most women would probably say we do. Men seem to have an ability to compartmentalize (also experienced as “tuning you out”) while women have been juggling a gazillion balls at once since the early days.

A recent article in the Chronicle of Higher Education gives greater insight into what’s going on when we multitask, and WHY it can have a negative effect, even though while we’re doing it, we actually think we’re being more effective.

And that’s the key point for us – that we THINK we are being more effective, so we continue to do it more and more, when in truth, we are being less effective, which means we get farther behind, requiring more multitasking, etc. etc. You see the pattern. It’s all an illusion.

Add to this the massive amount of information we are bombarded with daily…is it any wonder that the computer age, which we thought would usher in more leisure time, has done exactly the opposite for the general masses?

The article is rather fascinating, so you may want to check it out in its entirety.

Or, if you are more into summaries or a synopsis [superemotions file="icon_wink.gif" title="Wink"]  here are some of the basics. Read More→

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Categories : Mindfulness
Tags : brain research, Chronicle of Higher Education, multitasking

Worry Less, Live More – Michael Beckwith’s ideas on anxiety

By Nina East · Comments (3)
Monday, March 29th, 2010

Like many personal growth princesses, I have use “card decks” to help me set my intentions for the day. You know, the decks of cards with spiritual and inspirational messages. While some people may use them in an effort to “tell the future”, that’s not my focus. Instead, I think of them as “prompts” – to give me an idea or message to focus on for the day, to provide a different perspective than usual. They help me remain more mindful and less scattered.

Lately I’ve been using the Life Lift-Off cards by Michael Beckwith. 414K4liXzTL. SL500 AA300  Worry Less, Live More   Michael Beckwiths ideas on anxiety They are a great set. Not stuffy and not woo-woo. Just practical, insightful suggestions for mindfulness.

The other day I drew a card that said “Worry Less, Live More”.

On the Personal Growth Princess home page we use the phrase “Read Less. Grow More”. Like anyone, I like the idea of more for less [superemotions file="icon_smile.gif" title="Smile"]  so this really struck home.

It struck home because, despite my lighthearted, playful, princess attitude, I also tend toward the worry end of the spectrum.

What Michael Beckwith says with this card is that “worry is like paying interest on money you haven’t borrowed yet, and it pays no dividends except more worry.”

How true is that?! Worry begets more worry, which begets more worry, etc. etc.

His suggestion on how to worry less and live more? Stay focused on the Now. Keep your attention on this moment, not what might or might not happen, and express gratitude for your life just as it is. This sets off a cascade of appreciation and positive thoughts, which beget more positive thoughts, which beget more positive thoughts…you know the rest.

Now, be clear. Beckwith and I aren’t saying don’t have goals and don’t dream about or plan for the future. But when the worry bug starts to creep in, shift your attention to NOW, and focus on what you are grateful for.

How do you keep worry at bay? Or, more positively, how do you stay focused on good thoughts? Leave a comment below and let us know!

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Categories : Mindfulness, Recommended Resources
Tags : anxiety, goal setting, Mindfulness, personal growth, worry

Right Brain vs. Left Brain – how does it really work?

By Nina East · Comments (0)
Sunday, February 28th, 2010

What you are thinking about DETERMINES what you see – what you actually, physically see.brain250 Right Brain vs. Left Brain   how does it really work?

If you hang out with educators or in personal growth circles – or read anything by Dan Pink – you’ve heard people talking about being “right brained” or “left brained”. People don’t always know what this means – or at least not really – and they really don’t know how it works and how/if/when they can control it or use it to their advantage. Usually they are using it as shorthand to describe whether they are being analytical and focused, or free-wheeling and creative. Sometimes they are even using it as a sort of insult – as in, “People who are right-brained are flighty or woo-woo” or “People who are left-brained don’t know how to live.”

I found a fascinating article at The Daily Telegraph that has a test that allows you to experience – in the moment – how what you are thinking about directly affects what you see. Read More→

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Categories : Assessments, General Musings, Mindfulness
Tags : neuroscience, right brain left brain, The Daily Telegraph

More Happy, Less Crappy

By Nina East · Comments (0)
Friday, August 21st, 2009

Losing Your Mind…Then Finding It Again

(Or…You Can Change How You Feel…Really!)

(today’s post is brought to us by Visiting Expert Cheri Britton)

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Cheri Britton

More Happy, Less Crappy. These are the words I’ve been trying to live by lately.  (I’ve even given this name my up-coming blog…more info soon)

But wouldn’t you know it…when you declare that you intend to make a shift or a change…you get tested.

This week my son, who struggles to control his impulses, decided to do laundry.  Or rather he decided to experiment with laundry detergents.  He poured one huge bottle of detergent (enough for 107 loads) 2 ½ bottles of fabric softener and 2 bottles of stain remover into the washing machine all at once.

That evening I began to smell something but had no idea what it was.  Unbeknownst to me, his concoction was leaking out of my machine and all over my laundry room floor.

The next day I went down to do laundry.  That’s when I discovered that there was no detergent.  So I thought, “I can’t be out.  I had just bought some hadn’t I?”  and then  “Why are my feet all sticky and sliding all over the floor?!”  Then I noticed all of the empty bottles, figured out what he had done and proceeded to lose my mind.  I went berserk.  (Keep in mind that this discovery happened after he had put an entire box of uncooked spaghetti noodles all in the sofa, broken my glasses and used my new bottle of Stevia extract as lubricant for his race cars.

Like I said, I went berserk.

I was angry (warranted) and frustrated (after all, enough is enough).  I began to cry the tears that only an overwhelmed parent can understand.  I added up the cost of the day.  It was painful.  I had a melt down and I don’t think anyone would have expected me to do otherwise.

But then things took a nasty turn.  My internal conversation and emotions headed down the destructive path of self pity.  I went to that vicious, festered, (although comfortable) pit of melodrama.  I wallowed in “Why me?” and “What did I do to deserve this.” and my personal favorite “IT’S NOT FAIR!”

I went to the crappy. I sat my big ole pathetic butt smack dab in a pile of “IT’S NOT FAIR!”

THE TURN-AROUND

Then I remembered my work.  I remembered that while I can’t always choose what happens to me I can choose how I react to it.  And slowly I was able to turn things around and focus on me…not on what had been “done” to me (Noah did not DO this to me even though it felt personal.)  Instead, I put my focus on what I needed and then set about to get it.

1.  I needed to cry, lie on my bed and stare at the ceiling.  Never underestimate the cleansing power of a good cry.

2.  I needed to get some help. I called the was-band and asked if he could take Noah for the night. I needed a reprieve.  My reserves where all gone.  My inner critic Sasha was telling me I was a bad parent and that I couldn’t handle the hard stuff.  But I mentally ducted taped her mouth because I knew that asking for help in this moment was in everyone’s best interest.

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Categories : Choice, Mindfulness
Tags : boom thinking, Cheri Britton, Choice, Happiness, More Happy Less Crappy, overwhelm

Missing the moment – another mindfulness quote

By Nina East · Comments (0)
Tuesday, July 14th, 2009

How much time do you spend thinking about what you have to do next? Are you missing the current moment? Most of us are. Have you ever thought about what that costs you – in focus? in friendships? in relationships?

One of the great things about princesses, is that they know how to savor the moment. They can

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think about the future, and their own personal growth, without sacrificing attention to the here and now.

Completely Missing the Moment.

It is often the case that whatever we are doing, be it sitting, walking, standing, or lying, the mind is frequently disengaged from the immediate reality and is instead absorbed in compulsive conceptualization about the future or past. While we are walking, we think about arriving, and when we arrive, we think about leaving. When we are eating, we think about the dishes and as we do the dishes, we think about watching television. This is a weird way to run a mind. We are onot connected iwth the present situation, but we are always thinking about something else. Too often we are consumed with anxiety and cravings, regrets about the past and anticipation for the future, completely missing the crisp simplicity of the moment.

From Tibetan Buddhism from the Ground Up, by B. Alan Wallace

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Categories : Mindfulness
Tags : B. Alan Wallace, Mindfulness, personal growth quotes, Tibetan Buddhism

Letting Go – quotes for the soul and mindfulness

By Nina East · Comments (0)
Tuesday, July 14th, 2009

From Transforming The Mind, Healing The World, by Joseph Goldstein

What Happens When We Do Not Let Go?

What happens when we do not let go? Asians have a very clever trap for catching monkeys. People hollow out a coconut, put something sweet in it, and make a hole at the bottom of the coconut just big enough for the monkey to slide its open hand in, but not big enough for the monkey to withdraw its hand as a fist. They attach the coconut to the tree, and the monkey comes along and gets trapped. What keeps the monkey trapped? Only the force of desire, of clinging, of attachment. All the monkey has to do is let go of the sweet, open its hand, slip it out, and be free. But only a very rare monkey will do that.

What kind of monkey are you?  [superemotions file="icon_wink.gif" title="Wink"]

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From Living Meditation, Living Insight, by Thynn Thynn

Clinging is a Stressful State

The moment we want happiness, we start to cling to it in our mind. First, we cling to our own idea of happiness. We relate to the outside world as a source of satisfaction and look outward for the things we normally associate with happiness – accumulating wealth, success, fame or power. As soon as we become attached to any idea – happiness, success or whatever – there is already some stress. Clinging isitself a stressful state, and everything that derives from it is also stressful. For example, try to clench your hand to make a fist. As soon as you start to clench your hand, you have to use energy tokeep your fingers clenched tightly. When you let go of the clenching, your hand is free again. So it is with the mind. When it is in such a state of clenching, it can never be free. It can never experience peace or happiness, even if one has all the wealth, fame and power in the world.

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Categories : Mindfulness
Tags : Choice, limiting beliefs, personal development, personal growth, self-help
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